It started
when I was eight.
I thought I just couldn’t pull myself together. That wasn’t it — it was a reward system, trained early and thoroughly. Here is what I learned, and what actually helps.
Anonymous to read. No ads, and nobody watching what you read.
What finally made a difference was not more willpower. It was understanding what was actually happening.
My story
What it cost, and what finally shifted
The shame, the secrecy, and the concentration that slowly disappeared. I have written it all down — including the parts that were hard to admit.
Read the whole story →It is not just you — the numbers say the same
See the research and sources →- Age 13
- is the average age when children first see porn. One in ten has seen it before turning nine.Children’s Commissioner (2023)
- 88%
- of scenes in the most-watched porn films contain physical aggression, almost always directed at women.Bridges et al. (2010)
- 50,000+
- people across 50 studies: the more consumption, the lower the satisfaction in the relationship.Wright et al. (2017)
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Bastion is on its way
An Android blocker that removes the easy access to porn. Everything happens on your phone — there is no account, and your data never leaves it.
About the app →Frequently asked questions
Is porn harmful?
The research does not prove a single cause, but it points to clear patterns: early exposure, escalation and a reward system under pressure. On the research page every figure is linked to its source, so you can judge them yourself.
How do I stop watching porn?
There is no miracle cure. What first helped me was understanding the mechanics instead of blaming myself — and taking small steps, falling back and getting up again. The concrete things that helped are gathered on the getting-started page. If you need someone to talk to, you will find places that listen on the help page.
What do I do when the urge hits?
An urge usually peaks and passes within 15–20 minutes if you don’t feed it. Delay, change rooms, breathe slowly, and put the phone away — you just have to get through those minutes, not fight it with raw willpower. More concrete steps are gathered on the getting-started page.
When is it a porn addiction?
It is not a diagnosis you can make online, and this site cannot make it for you. But if it takes up more space than you want, and you keep going even though you want to stop, that is reason enough to take it seriously.
What does porn do to the brain?
In short, it trains the brain’s reward system to expect stronger and faster stimulation. The brain research behind this is gathered on the research page.
Am I the only one struggling with this?
No. The numbers show it starts early and is widespread — you are neither rare nor broken. That does not make it easier, but it is not something you carry alone.